Being a teenager, realize a lot of
things. At school your teacher may be a
great person but they never explain the lesson well enough, or you get to
chuckle with your best friend about what the new kid is wearing, or even
realize who is good at sports and who thinks they are “good” at sports. One
most prominent idea that has prospered though among young adults is
relationships and what is expected of them.
No matter If you
are scrolling through Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or any other social media
site there is always different posts about a girl wanting a unexpected visit
from their lover, and not only to come see her, but to also bring a beautiful
bouquet of flowers. Most recently we also see a girl complaining that her
boyfriend better get her the newest Pandora bracelet or Michael Kors bag. We also
see girls complaining that their boyfriend is talking to another girl, and they
become jealous wanting nothing more than to make the other girl disappear from
the face of the earth. But when it comes
to the feelings and emotions of the guy in the relationship, in most cases, he
has become accustom to beckoning to every order of his partner and will do
anything to make her happy, even if it means sacrificing something else in his
life. This may seem cruel and inappropriate but it has become a norm in teenage
relationships and will continue for many generations.
The biggest culprit
for this particular way of thinking is the prince charming effect. From the
time that we are little we fill our minds with movies of Disney princesses and
other stories that allow for a lovely lady to be swept of her feet by a
handsome, strong man and in results they live happily ever after without any complications
impeding on her life any longer. We see this when Prince Charming takes
Cinderella away from her duties of being the maid of the house, and she then was
flourished with extravagant clothes and a beautiful carriage to escort her
around. Or in romantic novel the Notebook, when Ally once thought she
was trapped in a relationship with a man of her caliber, but realizes she loves
Noah, the lower class boy and he fights for her love no matter what, showering
her with love notes for a year and constantly reminding her of her beauty, and in
the end they rekindle their relationship and die in each other’s arms. These
are just two examples in which were made in a few decades of each other, and throughout
each story the same theme is being reiterated, in which is that a girl deserves
everything and should be given and shown whatever it takes for her to realize
her value and true beauty.
Now not every relationship may be like this, but I guarantee
the majority of relationships are. This
just shows how story can allow for such a controversial topic to become a norm
in historical and modern society. Yes, girls may complain a lot and may seem
full of themselves, but in my opinion we can only blame the authors, writers
and directors of these powerful stories. These types of prince charming stories
have been passed down from generation to generation and have influenced the mind of young women
greatly and have served as an example as to how all men should treat their
lady. All in all, I do feel bad for the men involved in these relationships but
this way of life will not change unless the plot line of our most popular types
of stories are changed into something in which shows that men and women have established
equality in a relationship.
